As your life changes, so will your circle... and what a ride my life's been! Here you'll find a collection of some of my life experiences, as well as my random ramblings & some things I just find interesting... in no particular order.
True intimacy demands uncomfortable honesty... that, "I''ll show you mine if you show me yours," kinda openness... the raw, the vulnerable kind, you know. Yeah, we think we're honest, but we lie by omission. We keep so much hidden from the one we love. We hide our most intimate desires like they're a deep dark secret, that if exposed, would bring on a catastrophic event... those desires we think they can’t, or won't fulfill, much less understand... and we hide every little thing that we think will make them run away. Yeah, we hide who we truly are... simply because we're afraid. Afraid that if we open up and expose our true self, we'll be left... Abandoned. Funny, that.. because, we wind up blaming the object of our desire for not meeting our needs... the needs that we refuse to share with them... yeah, those needs. Well, the truth of the matter is, people aren't mind readers, clairvoyant, psychic, or whatever you wanna call it. No, they don't lose us... they don't even know who we are. We're the one who lost... lost them by hiding the truth of who we are... So, that thing we most feared, you know, that abandonment thing... well, now it's become a reality. How truly sad, this thing we do to ourselves, over and over again.... and let's just blame it on human nature, shall we? Because, that's so much easier than ponying up the truth to our special someone, let alone actually taking a good, hard look at ourselves, isn't it? -k.h.