As your life changes, so will your circle... and what a ride my life's been! Here you'll find a collection of some of my life experiences, as well as my random ramblings & some things I just find interesting... in no particular order.
What a woman is drawn to in a man is his strength, confidence, compassion... the way he makes her feel safe, both physically and emotionally. When she can feel calm and relaxed, entrusting herself into his care, she's able to let her guard down... and for her, that is sexy. She wants a man who knows what to do in a situation, a man who can take the lead. She wants a man who can be strong when she needs him to be, a man who takes care of her with his hands & heart. A man that not only allows her to be vulnerable, but protects her while she is... -J. Clemons
Help me move when I should move, help me rest when I should rest, help me give what I should give... all of me, nothing less. Help me speak with grace and truth, help me fight for those who can't. Help me love the way You love, never holding back... like Heaven on earth. Take my life and let it be. Set on fire for all to see. Break me down, build me up again... don't leave me the way I've been. Take my heart into Your hands. Come and finish what You began, until I seek Your kingdom first.
-Stars Go Dim, 'Heaven on Earth'
Psalm 27:10 When my father and my mother forsake me, the Lord will lift me up.
Of course, she’s winging it... running on playlists, faith, and caffeine. Building her life out of hard work, messy buns, and daydreams. And maybe that’s everything. Because, in a world that’s lost its magic, she’s picking herself up as she goes. And there ain’t a wand in that girl’s way too heavy to carry. -S.L.L.
My next relationship will be my last, so I’m not looking, I’m not worried, I’m not rushing. I want this love to find me, learn me, want me, need me, and love me in slow motion... we have forever to go.
He had stolen her todays, but not her tomorrows. Those were hers... and so one by one, she stole them back.
One morning she woke up different. Done with trying to figure out who was with her, against her, or walking down the middle because they didn’t have the guts to pick a side. She was done with anything that didn’t bring her peace. She realized that opinions were a dime a dozen, validation was for parking, and loyalty wasn’t a word but a lifestyle. It was this day that her life changed. And not because of a man or a job but because she realized that life is way too short to leave the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket. -Lessons Learned in Life
Never play head games with someone who is not afraid to be alone. You will lose... Every. Single. Time. Because they have a 'nothing lost, nothing gained... out with the old, in with the new' mindset. Yeah, they'll get by just fine. -k.h.
I live all around you, in schools and in town.
I live with the rich, I live with the poor, I live down the street, or maybe next door.
My power is awesome... try me you'll see!
But if you do, you may never break free.
Just try me once and I might let you go, but try me twice, and I'll own your soul.
When I possess you, you'll steal and you'll lie.
You'll do what you have to just to get high.
The crimes you'll commit, for my narcotic charms, will be worth the pleasure you'll feel in your arms.
You'll lie to your mother; you'll steal from your dad.
When you see their tears, you should feel sad.
But you'll forget your morals and how you were raised.
I'll be your conscience, I'll teach you my ways.
I take kids from parents, and parents from kids, I turn people from God, and separate friends.
I'll take everything from you, your looks and your pride, I'll be with you always, right by your side.
You'll give up everything - your family, your home, your friends, your money, then you'll be alone. - Forever & Always, Drugs
The strings were tied, it was freshly washed, and maybe even pressed. For Grandma, it was everyday to choose one when she dressed. The simple apron that it was, you would never think about; the things she used it for, that made it look worn out. She may have used it to hold some wildflowers that she'd found. Or to hide a crying child's face when a stranger came around. Imagine all the little tears that were wiped with just that cloth. Or it became a potholder to serve some chicken broth. She probably carried kindling to stoke the kitchen fire. To hold a load of laundry, or to wipe the clothesline wire. When canning all her vegetables, it was used to wipe her brow. You never know, she might have used it to shoo flies from the cow. She might have carried eggs in from the chicken coop outside. Whatever chore she used it for, she did them all with pride. When Grandma went to heaven, God said she now could rest. I'm sure the apron that she chose, was her Sunday best. -Tina Trivett
I don't crave acceptance, attention, or approval. I am me... a take me as I am kinda girl. Because, I learned that if you live for people's acceptance, you'll die from their rejection. -k.h.
Don't cling to a mistake just because you spent a lot of time making it. It was a lesson, not a life sentence.
Don't tell me. Show me. Because actions speak louder than words, you know... -k.h.
I cannot allow myself to be taken back to the place I so desperately prayed my way out of... never again, Lord. No, never again. -k.h.
...........................Our Power to Choose.......................
That girl you called a slut in class today. She's a virgin.
The pregnant girl, walking down the street, who overheard you whispering about her. She was raped. Committed suicide a few minutes ago.
The boy you called poor. He has to work every night to support his family. That girl you pushed down the other day. She's already being abused at home.
That girl you called fat. She's starving herself.
The old man you made fun of because of the ugly scars.
He fought for our country.
The boy you made fun of for crying. His mother is dying.
You think you know them.
Guess what? You don't. -unknown
Your words hold power. Why not try using them to build people up, instead of tearing them down?
Finding a lover and a friend in the same person is amazing. It's the kind of bond that gets stronger with time. Like, when you're out with a group & you glance at each other, and know exactly what they're thinking, what they're feeling, without having to say a word. And with time, the relationship gets even stronger.. like, when they hurt, you hurt right along with them. Yep, a mind / soul connection, the best of both worlds, a lover & a friend, rolled up into one.. your "me" time, becomes more "us" time. And you're okay with that.. and who wouldn't be, really? One free of pretense, a playful relationship, where you can act a fool, be yourself, knowing they'll still love you... just the way you are. -k.h.
Find someone who pays attention. Who runs their fingers over your every scar; and asks where each one came from. Find someone who knows how you like your coffee; what song makes you want to roll the windows down and slam on the gas pedal. Find someone who takes in your smallest details; who notices the things you thought no one ever would.
And then…when you find them… Be their someone, too. -unknown
Went to the river. Carried her picture. No clues, she left us.
Can't find a reason she thought she had to go.
Still, I try to find meaning,
try to make sense of this thing...
where did her soul go..
where's her spirit hiding....
and why couldn't we see... was there pain in her eyes?
The river... apparently,
her only solution. It carried her away, along with the answers... The whys, forever with us... Yeah, we'll never know. I placed a rose in the water, near the last place she was known to go... my final goodbye to this precious soul. God knows.. I loved her so. -k.h.
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-Sadly, Free Will isn't accompanied by foreknowledge. Nope, with Free Will comes the daily grind of Decisions, with its pesky tag-alongs: Anxiety, Indecisiveness, Procrastination, and Uncertainty. Then, there's the occasional Regret showing up unannounced, and uninvited. Yeah, a real Debbie Downer, Regret... guaranteed to follow Decisions down life's highway. Life. It's not perfect... for any of us. My advice: Do your best... with a smile on your face... and your head held high. Because, better days are ahead, my friend. One way, or another... -k.h.
That thing you can't shake, that thing that keeps you up at night, that thing you'll never understand, that thing that you wished could've been, that thing you keep crying over...
Listen, God knows.
God hasn't abandoned you. Think of the worst thing you have lived through, and remember how God carried you through that. It's NOT over, it's a new beginning. Its okay that you're sometimes scared, but just know God's plan is better than your own. - written by Brittany Masters, a young lady, wise beyond her years.
My life is not meant to merely survive, but to thrive... and to do so with passion, compassion, humor, and style. -Maya Angelou
November girls are a different breed... born at a time when the trees are naked and barren. A somewhat sad season, really, where darkness arrives early from a sky that spits cold drizzle... yeah, makes it easy to see why these moody, mysterious girls are so difficult to get to know, yet simply impossible to forget, don't you think? -k.h.
One morning she woke up different. Done with trying to figure out who was with her, against her, or walking down the middle because they didn’t have the guts to pick a side. She was done with anything that didn’t bring her peace. She realized that opinions were a dime a dozen, validation was for parking, and loyalty wasn’t a word, but a lifestyle. It was this day that her life changed. And not because of a man or a job but because she realized that life is way too short to leave the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket. -unknown
I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back..
I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I've learned that it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.
I've learned that you can get by on charm for about 15 minutes. After that, you'd better know something.
I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do, but to the best you can do.
I've learned that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it.
I've learned that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.
I've learned that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I've learned that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think.
I've learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
I've learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't.
I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I've learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I've learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something to take its place.
I've learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I've learned that learning to forgive takes practice.
I've learned that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it.
I've learned that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I've learned that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I've learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
I've learned that I'm getting more and more like my grandma, and I'm kinda happy about it.
I've learned that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I've learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
I've learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
I've learned that you should never tell a child her dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if she believed it
I've learned that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.
I've learned that no matter how good a friend someone is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I've learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I've learned that sometimes when my friends fight, I'm forced to choose sides even when I don't want to.
I've learned that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
I've learned that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.
I've learned that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I've learned that if you don't want to forget something, stick it in your underwear drawer.
I've learned that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I've learned that the clothes I like best are the ones with the most holes in them.
I've learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I've learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.
I've learned that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.
I've learned that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves, get farther in life.
I've learned that many things can be powered by the mind, the trick is self-control.
I've learned that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar, you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.
I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.
I've learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
I've learned that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.
I've learned that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us.
I've learned that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.
I've learned that although the word "love" can have many different meaning, it loses value when overly used.
I've learned that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe. -author unknown
When I'm gone, 'I'd like to think that at some point, someone somewhere will stumble upon my words, and as they read of my thoughts, my stories... they'd say, "I woulda' loved that sassy little rebel!" After all, when everything is said and done, that's all any of us want, really, don't you think... to be loved, to be desired, to be remembered... to have mattered to someone? -k.h.
Old Farmer's Advice:
Your fences need to be horse-high, pig-tight and bull-strong.
Keep skunks and bankers at a distance.
Life is simpler when you plow around the stump.
A bumble bee is considerably faster than a John Deere tractor.
Words that soak into your ears are whispered... not yelled.
Meanness don't just happen overnight.
Forgive your enemies; it messes up their heads.
Do not corner something that you know is meaner than you.
It don't take a very big person to carry a grudge.
You cannot unsay a cruel word.
Every path has a few puddles.
When you wallow with pigs, expect to get dirty.
The best sermons are lived, not preached.
Most of the stuff people worry about, ain't never gonna happen anyway.
Don't judge folks by their relatives.
Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
Live a good and honorable life, then when you get older and think back, you'll enjoy it a second time.
Don't interfere with something' that ain't bothering you none.
Timing has a lot to do with the outcome of a rain dance.
If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop diggin'.
Sometimes you get, and sometimes you get got.
The biggest troublemaker you'll probably ever have to deal with, watches you from the mirror every morning'.
Always drink upstream from the herd.
Good judgment comes from experience, and a lotta that comes from bad judgment.
Lettin' the cat outta the bag is a whole lot easier than puttin' it back in.
If you get to thinking' you're a person of some influence, try ordering' somebody else's dog around.
Live simply, love generously, care deeply, speak kindly, and enjoy the ride.
Don't pick a fight with an old man. If he is too old to fight, he'll just shoot you!