Life is about choices... We make decisions in life that that turn out to be mistakes. But the only way to know that it's a mistake is to make that mistake.
Now, the bigger mistake would be to never make mistakes...
because. then you'll waste your life... accomplishing absolutely nothing. Choose to take chances. That's what life's about. Just sayin'... -k.h.
“If I knew today would be the last time...
There is a last time for everything.
There will come a time when you will feed
your baby for the very last time.
They will fall asleep on you after a long day
And it will be the last time you ever hold your sleeping child.
One day you will carry them on your hip then set them down,
And never pick them up that way again.
You will scrub their hair in the bath one night
And from that day on they will want to bathe alone.
They will hold your hand to cross the road,
Then never reach for it again.
They will creep into your room at midnight for cuddles,
And it will be the last night you ever wake to this.
One afternoon you will sing “the wheels on the bus”
and do all the actions,
Then never sing them that song again.
They will kiss you goodbye at the school gate,
The next day they will ask to walk to the gate alone.
You will read a final bedtime story and wipe your last dirty face.
They will run to you with arms raised for the very last time.
The thing is, you won’t even know it’s the last time
Until there are no more times.
And even then, it will take you a while to realize.
So while you are living in these times,
remember there are only so many of them
and when they are gone, you will yearn for just one more day of them.
For one last time.
They will reach for your finger to help them balance when they walk one last time... then never reach for it again.
“She speaks to me fondly of passions and talents,
guitars and stars, then stops short and apologizes for speaking at all.
All because somewhere in her life, someone she loved broke her heart by ignoring her beautiful words and telling her to shut up, keep it down, nobody cares.
People aren’t born sad.
We make them that way.” ~Nikita Gill
With the 2020 call to self-isolate, it has given us time for self-reflection. I hope we've learned something, anything... that we can carry into the future.
Well, I learned something new today... I learned that the 60's weren't as fun and carefree as the old hippies would have us believe. It was good for the men, but not so much for the women...
This is an actual extract from a sex education textbook for girls, printed in the early 1960's in the UK. :
“When retiring to the bedroom, prepare yourself for bed as promptly as possible. Whilst feminine hygiene is of the utmost importance, your tired husband does not want to queue for the bathroom, as he would have to do for his train. But remember to look your best when going to bed. Try to achieve a look that is welcoming without being obvious. If you need to apply face-cream or hair-rollers wait until he is asleep as this can be shocking to a man last thing at night.
When it comes to the possibility of intimate relations with your husband it is important to remember your marriage vows and in particular your commitment to obey him. If he feels that he needs to sleep immediately then so be it. In all things be led by your husband's wishes; do not pressure him in any way to stimulate intimacy. Should your husband suggest congress then agree humbly all the while being mindful that a man's satisfaction is more important than a woman's. When he reaches his moment of fulfilment a small moan from yourself is encouraging to him and quite sufficient to indicate any enjoyment that you may have had.
Should your husband suggest any of the more unusual practices be obedient and uncomplaining but register any reluctance by remaining silent. It is likely that your husband will then fall promptly asleep so adjust your clothing, freshen up and apply your night-time face and hair care products. You may then set the alarm so that you can arise shortly before him in the morning. This will enable you to have his morning cup of tea ready when he awakes.”
The King reportedly ate a mammoth 10-12,000 calories per day, his diet consisting mainly of meat and fried food. His favorite snack was Fool's Gold Loaf which consists of a hollowed out loaf of sourdough bread, stuffed with an entire jar of peanut butter, an entire jar of grape jam and a pound of bacon. Not forgetting margarine first, and deep-frying it afterwards. A recipe for the grilled peanut butter & banana sandwich he loved is in one of the images above.
When my kids were young, I would plead with them, "Please, just let me sleep five more minutes!" almost every morning. My youngest daughter would say. "I don't know why you can't just get up." She absolutely hated it. Always the night owl, mornings have never been my favorite time of day, so come morning, I was seldom well rested. So, my sleep deprived mind was convinced that those five more minutes were key to my survival. Well, as it turns out, as my daughter got older and had a child of her own, she became a night owl, too. So, now she's the mother who pleads with her child for, "Just 5 more minutes!" ... and her daughter hates it. But this mother, she loves it! Because... karma, you know.
When you thought I wasn't looking, you said a prayer. And I believed there was a God that I could always talk to.
I've read that Jupiter has a corrosive atmosphere... caustic, destructive, incisive, certainly uninviting. Oh, I'm sure the same has been said of a lot of us single moms... and maybe, just maybe, Jupiter can't help but to stir up the never ceasing storms around her. All I know is, her tag-along kids have never known peace or stability... because as much as she wants to, she will never be able to offer them a solid foundation, but still they hang close... in the Hope of Someday... in the same way a lot of us keep right on holding on. Hope is a Powerful thing, you know. -k.h.
I believe the dog-eared pages of our life story are filled with our bests, our worsts, our to be continued's, along with a slew of in-case-of-emergency refer back to's ... -k.h.
He's my Strength, my Hope, my Way Maker, my Promise Keeper, my Miracle Worker, my Shelter in life's storms. He's the Light in my darkest days. i need only to be still, for He always carries me through. And if that isn't love... well, i don't know what is. -k.h.
I've learned to listen to my heart. To trust my gut. To believe my eyes more than my ears because people tell you what they think you want to hear. To stop rushing things because everything happens in God's time. I've learned that if it's meant to be, it will be. That the voice of fear can't always be trusted, but God's Word can. That the beaten path is not always for me, and the occasional detour can be so enlightening if I just pay attention. That everyone doesn't have a moral compass, and to steer clear of those people. I've learned that I, and I alone, am responsible for my happiness. That my mistakes, my decisions, my choices have made me the person I am, and have led me to where I am today. These are the things I've learned throughout my life... and I've even learned to be okay with that. All of it. ~k.h.
“Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life.
Almost everything--all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure--these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.
Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet, death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it, and that is how it should be, because death is very likely the single best invention of life. It's life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new.”
- Steve Jobs
I'm not comfortable living between certainty and doubt... I was certain I could trust you until you gave me reason to doubt. Now, the only thing I'm certain of are my doubts. -k.h.
From my massive vault of Lessons Learned in Life...
I love falling asleep to the sound of rain. I love listening to the blues. I love old movies. I love looking through old family photographs. I love deep conversations. I love hearing, "I love you," before hanging up the phone. I love innocent kisses that lead to hugs and cuddles. I love the things that have meaning, those things that make you feel... the things that have soul, you know... ~k.h.
Dreaming is the closest we will ever get to the other world. It's when we sleep, that our mind lets down its guard, allowing us a glimpse into the other side. That’s when our loved ones who have passed come to visit us... ~k.h.
If you have a choice between me and her, choose her... because if you really loved me, there wouldn't be a choice. ~Tinkerbell
The thing with broken clocks, is you can always tell exactly when they stopped ticking.
With people, it isn’t so easy, and sometimes you can’t even tell they’re broken... ~n.h.
“If you love something, love it completely, cherish it, say it, but most importantly, show it. Life is finite and fragile, and just because something is there one day, it might not be the next. Never take that for granted.
Say what you need to say, then say a little more.
Say too much. Show too much. Love too much.
Everything is temporary but love.
Love outlives us all.” ~R.Queen
Have you ever been in, what I call a light switch relationship? You know, one where you wake up every day wondering, "Are we ON today, or are we OFF today?" ~k.h.